.. is on the lips of every woman in her twenties. How do I know that? Because I am one of them. If your weekends are full of bridal showers and bachelorette parties, you might be in your twenties. If your paydays are spent budgeting for wedding related gifts and activities, you might be in your twenties. If your social interactions are spent talking about all the upcoming weddings, you might be in your twenties. It’s like some messed up Jeff Foxworthy skit, only it’s not a joke. Whether you are married, engaged, dating or single, here’s some things to keep in mind as you buckle-up for wedding season.
How you feel: “Yet another bridal shower invitation and the ONLY day of the month that I’m free. Now I have to go on the registry, find a decent gift and figure out what I’m going to wear.”
What to do: Though it might be an inconvenience for you, try to remember this is an important time for your bride. You don’t always need to purchase a gift off of the registry. Pick up a card, write a nice note, throw in a check and you’re done. Your attendance to the event is half the battle and though you may not get a chance to have a full conversation with your bride, she will always remember you were there. Just think of it as a couple hours with free food and hopefully mimosa’s. And then there’s the hour of gift opening. There’s only so much oooh-ing and aaah-ing you can do so seriously… mimosas. Did I mention mimosas? MIMOSAS.
How you feel: “There’s no way I can afford a long weekend in Mexico. Besides, I can’t take any more time off of work!”
What to do: If it’s truly not in your budget to attend the bachelorette party, don’t sweat it! Plan a local get together in honor of your bride and coordinate with the other women who were unable to make the trip. Here’s an example of what you might say to your bride: “I heard it was in the plans to go to Mexico for your bachelorette party – that sounds like so much fun! Unfortunately, it’s just not in my budget to make that trip this year. I will be sad to be missing out, however, I really wanted to plan something local so I can help celebrate your last days as a bachelorette. I know you’re busy with the wedding, but give me a couple dates that you’re free and I’ll coordinate with the other girls.” This will show your friend that though you are unable to attend her event, you are making a genuine effort to celebrate with her.
Now with the bridal shower and bachelorette party out of the way, you can enjoy the wedding! Grab a cocktail and celebrate your bride finally saying “I do.” Phew, now it’s time to relax. That is until the next save-the-date comes in the mail!